It was one of the first things I did when I retired from more-than-full-time music teaching and serving as the Performing Arts Curriculum Leader of my excellent school system (Upper St. Clair School District/Western Pennsylvania). Start looking for a dog.
The incredibly hectic non-stop schedule of a husband and wife, both string teachers with a variety of responsibilities, music class assignments, after-school rehearsals, and concerts across numerous buildings, serving as spring musical directors, active music festival and conference participants in our professional groups (PMEA/ASTA), and co-director (wife) or assistant (me) of the marching band – totally precluded having a dog. I think it would have been considered animal abuse. We were never home, except to crawl into bed to fall sleep. That’s the “calling” of a devoted music educator, especially if he/she is passionate about and focused on inspiring and bringing creative self-expression to the students, willingly committing him/herself to countless hours of extra-curricular activities. We are proud of those opportunities that affected so many lives! (Do you remember the theme of that final scene in the movie “Mr. Holland’s Opus?”)
It was quite by accident that we “found” our two puppies. (Actually, as most dog owners would attest, they chose us!) We visited the area pet stores, just to peruse all of the animal habitats, beds, toys, treats, and the like… and did not know that one chain store in our area actually sold dogs! Gracie, a pure-bred bichon frise selected my wife, and a yorky-poo we named Brewster picked me! The rest is history… at a high cost (the premium price for the dogs plus two of everything, including duplicate crates, dishes, bags of food, treats, and even toothbrushes). With lots of surprises in store for us, we rescued them from Petland!
After 35 years of having to run in and out of the house to travel and fulfill appointments, errands, practices, and performances, all at once I had a reason to stay home and share the unconditional love of owning not one but two “good dogs.”
New retiree “pet chores” were doled out. My wife was in charge of feeding and grooming. I did the lion-share of walks. We both attended “owner training” (they called it “dog training,” but we were the ones who needed to learn how to control our dogs).
For me, walking the dogs has become the most amazingly peaceful and reflective activity. It has improved my disposition, calmed my nerves, sharpened my senses, increased my capacity for patience and tolerance, and lowered my blood pressure! Yes, between volunteer escorting patients at our local hospital several days a week and exercising the dogs at least four times daily, we add up a lot of mileage… an average of 15,000 steps or 5-7 miles a day!
Something I would never have predicted before my retirement: I am now getting up as early as 5:30 most mornings… which is before the alarm would go off when I was employed! Of course, this is every day, every week, every season, rain or shine, with few exceptions. Who needs sleep anyway?
You really ought to try taking two warm bundles of fur to bed with you to hug and cuddle. Gracie and Brewster only have temporary residence on the top of our blankets and bedspread, and must later go back to their playpens in the game-room (our former music studio) once we decide to go to sleep. (My dogs are small… I don’t want to “squash them” when I roll over!)
So, who’s the teacher now? The following are a few of the “life’s lessons” I have learned from close observation of my dogs. Consider this a helpful guide for all retired people.
- Live enthusiastically in the “here and now.”
- Forgive unequivocally and immediately.
- Life is all about taking a long walk, smelling the roses (and everything else), bamboozling another treat from “daddy,” and getting my ears scratched or belly rubbed.
- Whenever possible, fearlessly explore the fringe (almost beyond the reach of the leash).
- Relax and snuggle with someone you love as often as possible.
- When loved ones come home, always run to greet them.
- If what you want lies buried, dig until you find it.
- Never pretend to be something you are not.
- No matter how often you are scolded, don’t buy into the guilt thing and pout… run right back and make friends.
- We need to play (every day).
- Love is all there isl
Attention all recently retired persons: If you do not already own a dog or other pet, I strongly encourage you to consider the option of adopting or rescuing a dog! It may be one of the best decisions of your life!
© 2015 Paul K. Fox
4 thoughts on “What I Have Learned from My Dogs… in Retirement”
I actually saw you on one of your walks one day and couldn’t believe my eyes. If I hadn’t had a client with me I would have looped back to say hi. So glad you and Donna are finding time for such treasured moments! I thought I retired from Ethan Allen last June but lots of people “found” me so I am working again but enjoying it SO much more when I can do it on my own schedule. Also enjoying return to teaching voice and loving that. Old age does have its benefits! Hi to Donna, please!
You are an outstanding voice teacher. I am glad you are continuing private voice lessons in your not-so-retirement! PKF
I am dog sitting my daughter’s dog right now. I do think dogs have a lot to teach us.
Rich and I added Fiona, a Westie, four months ago to our family. Everything you said in your blog is true. We enjoy our daily walks with her and she really has us trained well! I told one of our sons that since we got Fiona I smile and laugh a lot more! She also does wonders for keeping your blood pressure low.
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