A Family-Friendly Checklist to Plan Your Final Affairs
Four years ago, I wrote the blog Estate Planning: Final Instructions, and as I said at the time, “The Elephant in the Room” (rarely or awkwardly talked about) was “How to Prepare Your Family for the End” – sharing your final wishes and necessary financial, legal, and estate information.
Our guest author for this month, Charlie Baker from the law office of Travis R. Walker, recaps a more detailed listing of the needs to make your end-of-life transition as smooth and stress-free as possible for your heirs. Although you won’t be around to hear them thank you for this advance planning, no matter how busy you are right now (or how uncomfortable thinking about this eventual “final passage”), don’t put it off! PKF
Here is the summary the essential categories of TO-DOs:
Estate planning doesn’t have to be a grim affair. This 25-step checklist will make it easier for your family to settle your affairs after your passing. Even if you already have a will or trust in place, there may be additional steps you can take to give your family the peace of mind they need in the days after your death.
Assemble Necessary Information
[ ] 1. Itemize Inventory
Before you write out your will, take note of the material things you own. These may include:
Property
Physical investments
Precious belongings like jewelry or art
Expensive at-home equipment
It’s in your best interest to create an inventory of your belongings in an electronic spreadsheet, but you can also work with your family members to create a physical copy.
Make sure you share the finished copy of your inventory with your executor.
[ ] 2. Itemize Non-Physical Assets
You can also create a separate inventory detailing your intangible investments, including your:
Once again, share this document with your executor. You can also keep an additional physical copy with your tax returns and any documents regarding your insurance policies.
[ ] 3. Assemble Insurance Policies
Regarding your insurance policies, print out all information relevant to your life insurance, home/renters insurance, car insurance, and related coverage. It’s in your best interest to keep this information in a fire-safe or at a bank.
Your executor can receive instructions on accessing these documents if they don’t already have copies on hand.
[ ] 4. Note List of Debts
There’s a chance you’ll leave behind debts upon your passing. These can range from credit card debts to essential mortgage debts to unanticipated medical expenses.
You can work with trusted family members to take account of these debts. Your family can then address those expenses as painlessly and simply as possible.
[ ] 5. Make a Membership List
If you’re a member of an organization that offers life insurance benefits at no additional cost to you or your loved ones, note those institutions among your documents. Your loved ones may have the right to collect additional benefits after passing.
[ ] 6. Gather Titles and Deeds of Properties
While creating an inventory of your belongings, ensure that you produce any related proprietorial documents and include them in your estate planning kit. These documents can include vehicle titles and deeds of property.
You may want to retitle any relevant properties if you have a trust in place, so that said property falls under the trust’s protection at the time of your death.
[ ] 7. Gather Proof of Identity Documents
You can also find the original copies of your social security card, birth certificate, marriage certificate, divorce certificate, and any discharge papers. Consider making copies of relevant documents and storing them in a fire-safe or bank box.
Again, make sure your executor knows how to access these documents or comes into possession of relevant copies.
[ ] 8. List Digital Logins and Passwords
In this increasingly digital age, your death may see you leave behind a litany of online accounts. With this in mind, list your social media accounts, financial accounts, email addresses, and passwords. You could also invest in terabyte storage blocks so you can make copies of any pictures or relevant documents you may have stored on your computer(s).
Manage and Review Finances
[ ] 9. Consolidate Your Finances
If possible, ensure you can transfer your finances to a single bank or create a paper trail that your loved ones can later follow to consolidate your finances. You want to make it easy for your executor to distribute your applicable finances upon your passing.
[ ] 10. Review Retirement Account Beneficiaries
The beneficiaries you name in your retirement account will receive the benefits before anyone noted in your will. Make sure you’ve named the appropriate beneficiaries and add those parties you want to be protected. You can also remove certain parties from your retirement account after you first establish that account.
[ ] 11. Review Insurance Beneficiaries
Similarly, double-check your insurance beneficiaries and take the time to add any parties you want to benefit from your chosen protections.
[ ] 12. Prepare for Estate Tax Obligations
While you may not have the opportunity to get ahead of your loved ones’ tax obligations, you can work with a personal executor to prepare your loved ones for your state’s specific estate and inheritance taxes. You can also note any federal laws that might impact your loved ones’ inheritances.
[ ] 13. Take Advantage of College Funding Accounts
If you want to create a college fund for any children or grandchildren, you can establish a 529 account during estate planning. Establishing a 529 account comes with tax advantages you can discuss with an accountant or an estate planning attorney, depending on your circumstances.
Decide on Your Plan
[ ] 14. Talk with an Estate Attorney
Between the emotional stress and the sheer number of documents you need to establish a postmortem action plan, you may find you need a hand planning your estate. You can work with an estate attorney to gather the necessary documents and establish the appropriate support nets for your family.
[ ] 15. Choose an Executor or Administrator of Your Estate
Most estate planning attorneys prompt you to elect a personal estate executor when you first draft your will. If you have not elected this individual at this point, you must do so.
Your executor should be someone you trust to be responsible with your loved one’s feelings and your estate. Choosing an executor who is financially stable and mentally fit is also advisable.
[ ] 16. Assign Transfer on Death Designation
When you take the time to assign a transfer of your accounts upon the designation of your death — provided you can do so — you can prevent your loved ones from waiting through a lengthy probate process to take control of your assets.
You can work with an aide to connect with the relevant institutions and ensure your accounts are handled correctly. You have the right to ease the transference of your IRAs, retirement funds, 401ks, and insurance policies in addition to your bank accounts.
[ ] 17. Select Guardians for Children and Pets
Most people don’t forget to declare a guardian for their children in the event of their death. If there’s a specific party you want to watch over your loved ones — including your pets — you need to declare as such in your will.
You can connect with an estate planning attorney if you need to modify an existing will to account for a new family member or pet under your guardianship.
Complete Important Documents
[ ] 18. Last Will and Testament
Your last will and testament identifies your executor, giving them your instructions regarding how you want your property to be distributed. This document must be witnessed and notarized, ensuring you were of sound mind when you distributed control over your estate.
[ ] 19. Living Trust
You can use a living trust to distribute a portion of your estate to a specific designee. Living trusts come with explicit instructions about how portions of your estate should be distributed upon your passing.
You can choose to create either a revocable or irrevocable trust.
You retain control over a revocable trust until your death.
An irrevocable trust technically owns itself and thus places less of a taxable burden upon its recipient.
[ ] 20. Living Will
A living will specifies your desired actions in the event that you can no longer make medical decisions for yourself. You can also use a living will to issue “do not resuscitate” orders.
[ ] 21. Power of Attorney
The power of attorney title determines who wields control over your estate and affairs if you can no longer do so due to your death or a severe injury.
[ ] 22. Statement of Wishes
You can include a statement of wishes along with your will, but it’s not an essential document. Instead, it’s a statement of wishes outlining what you would like your loved ones to do upon your passing regarding your funeral arrangements and additional postmortem care. You can also use a statement of wishes to elaborate on decisions made in your will.
Updating and Managing Your Estate
[ ] 23. Store Documents in a Safe and Accessible Place
You must store your postmortem documents in a location safe from environmental harm and foul play. It’s best to store multiple copies of essential documents in a fire-safe or bank box.
[ ] 24. Make Copies of Your Documents
Having multiple copies of your postmortem documents is always a good idea. You can create physical copies of your estate plans to divide among the relevant parties. You can also make digital copies of these documents to store in the Cloud or on a personal storage drive.
If necessary, you can request that your executor distribute access to these documents to the relevant parties upon your death.
[ ] 25. Reassess Your Plan
There is always a chance your plans for the future may change after you’ve assembled your estate planning documents. With that in mind, make sure you revisit your documents after significant life changes, such as marriage, divorce, and the birth of a child.
You can also revisit your plan if the person you named as your executor or a beneficiary passes away. An estate planning attorney can help you rework your plan upon your request.
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The Elephant in the Room: How to Prepare Your Family for “The End”
Expanded from the October 3, 2019 article in PMEA Retired Member Network eNEWS.
Few people want to talk about it… what co-authors Shoshana Berger and BJ Miller discuss in their book, A Beginner’s Guide to the End: Practical Advice for Living Life and Facing Death:
Passwords for phone, computer, email, and social media accounts
Instructions for your funeral and final disposition
An ethical will*
Letters to loved ones
* Where a legal will transfers assets, an ethical will transfers immaterial things: your life lessons and values. For a discussion on the latter, seek out the book Ethical Wills: Putting Your Values on Paper by Dr. Barry Baines.
Berger and Miller also recommended to purchase and set-up an online password manager to safeguard your data and share the master password with someone you trust. (For more info on password management software, read my “tech rant” blog here.)
With greater detail, we also learn from https://www.wealthmanagement.com/news/final-letter-instructions-family-important the importance of leaving a “final letter of instructions” to your loved ones. The website reports what Neuberger Berman Trust Company advises should be archived in a document to be read after your death.
The location of all estate planning documents, such as wills and trust agreements
A list of relevant advisors with contact information
List of other people to contact on your death
Location of any safe deposit boxes, inventory list, location of keys, who is authorized to open
List of life insurance policies, location and beneficiaries
List of bank accounts and how they are titled
Investment and trust account information
A description of other assets
Any debts or other liabilities
Listing of all credit card accounts
Inventory of other important documents like deeds and titles, and where they are held
Location of keys to all residences
Description of any pension benefits and who to contact
Instructions concerning funeral or memorial services
They add that this document should be held by your attorney, spouse, and adult children.
What would you say to those nearest and dearest to you if you couldn’t (or didn’t) tell them in person? Consider writing individual letters to your partner, children, or other family members “as a way of leaving a few last words.” Check out Frish Brandt’s inspiring website, “Last[ing] Letters.”
A Lasting Letter is a letter written to someone you care about, someone who you wish to hear your voice and read your words long into the future. Sometimes referred to as a ‘legacy letter,’ this letter holds the words that carry one’s voice forward in time.
The letter can take many forms: long or short, a memento of a moment or a history of a lifetime, a connection made or missed, an instruction or a confession, a love letter, and everything in between.
Each letter is unique: each voice, each intention is individual.
Getting Ready to Apply for a Job? It’s Time to Curate Your Social Media!
[Portions of this blog-post were first published in the January 31, 2019 issue of the Collegiate Communique sponsored by the PMEA State Council for Teacher Training, Recruitment, and Retention.]
Have you ever gone on the Internet and searched for your name? Have you assessed what your image (and “personal brand”) say about you on all the social media platforms?
According to a McAfee family safety blog,in anticipation of future employers researching you and everything with your name on it, you should make a concerted effort to “launder” your online presence.
People are watching you right now. Like it or not — agree with the intrusion or not — you are being Googled, judged, and analyzed by the body of content you’ve posted online. Whether you are applying to a college, for a summer job, or even currently employed, you can bet someone who matters to your future is on your digital trail.
Also recommended by Birdsong, the new “best practice” is to A) clean up any questionable content from all social profiles and B) design your social content in a way that “reflects your best self.” This means you should delete permanently from Facebook and other platforms:
Provocative or inappropriate photographs, videos, or posts
Posts or photos that include drinking or using drugs
Discriminatory comments related to race, religion, gender, etc.
Content that complains about a previous employer or colleague
Posts that are overly cynical, grumpy, or mean
Instead, your profile information should reflect integrity and responsibility, so you should expand or add content that:
Projects a professional image
Shows a friendly, positive personality
Demonstrates that you are well-rounded, with wide range of interests
Models that you have great communication skills
Think the whole “future employers checking your social media accounts” thing is just an annoying urban legend? Think again.
It turns out that one in three employers have rejected candidates based on something they found out about them online.
The McAfee blog really does a good job summing up ten steps to a better online presence:
Make a hit list
Think like the decision maker.
Streamline your selfies.
Review past blogs.
Google yourself.
Inventory all social profiles.
Edit your Twitter feed.
Secure names and URLs.
Change your online persona – for good.
Start a career-focused Blog.
There are many samples for that last tip, my favorite from a former student of mine freely sharing his professional website at daviddockan.com.(Use “Music” for the password.) David included his resume, philosophy of music education, employment history, and photo/video samples of his teaching… a very powerful digital portfolio and marketing/branding technique… and of course, he landed his first music teacher job immediately after graduating from West Virginia University!
Employers can learn a lot about you from your resume and interview, but sometimes it takes a little bit more to sell yourself (although there’s a delicate balance between selling yourself and being transparent in the hiring process). Take advantage of the benefits of social media – it’s an often-needed extra step to show what you bring to the table, a way to add flair to your application, and make a lasting impression on your potential employers.
In short, keep it clean and professional! “Police” your social media image and brand. And, as they say, “break a leg” at your interviews! Good luck in job hunting!
Photo credits in order from Pixabay.com: “social media” by Alexas_Fotos, “banner” and “tree” by geralt, “laptop” by JESHOOTS-com, “notebook” by FirmBee, “personal” by geralt, “career” by mohamed_hassan, “online” by kreatikar, and “job” by Tumisu.