A Family-Friendly Checklist to Plan Your Final Affairs
Four years ago, I wrote the blog Estate Planning: Final Instructions, and as I said at the time, “The Elephant in the Room” (rarely or awkwardly talked about) was “How to Prepare Your Family for the End” – sharing your final wishes and necessary financial, legal, and estate information.
Our guest author for this month, Charlie Baker from the law office of Travis R. Walker, recaps a more detailed listing of the needs to make your end-of-life transition as smooth and stress-free as possible for your heirs. Although you won’t be around to hear them thank you for this advance planning, no matter how busy you are right now (or how uncomfortable thinking about this eventual “final passage”), don’t put it off! PKF
Here is the summary the essential categories of TO-DOs:
Estate planning doesn’t have to be a grim affair. This 25-step checklist will make it easier for your family to settle your affairs after your passing. Even if you already have a will or trust in place, there may be additional steps you can take to give your family the peace of mind they need in the days after your death.
Assemble Necessary Information
[ ] 1. Itemize Inventory
Before you write out your will, take note of the material things you own. These may include:
Property
Physical investments
Precious belongings like jewelry or art
Expensive at-home equipment
It’s in your best interest to create an inventory of your belongings in an electronic spreadsheet, but you can also work with your family members to create a physical copy.
Make sure you share the finished copy of your inventory with your executor.
[ ] 2. Itemize Non-Physical Assets
You can also create a separate inventory detailing your intangible investments, including your:
Once again, share this document with your executor. You can also keep an additional physical copy with your tax returns and any documents regarding your insurance policies.
[ ] 3. Assemble Insurance Policies
Regarding your insurance policies, print out all information relevant to your life insurance, home/renters insurance, car insurance, and related coverage. It’s in your best interest to keep this information in a fire-safe or at a bank.
Your executor can receive instructions on accessing these documents if they don’t already have copies on hand.
[ ] 4. Note List of Debts
There’s a chance you’ll leave behind debts upon your passing. These can range from credit card debts to essential mortgage debts to unanticipated medical expenses.
You can work with trusted family members to take account of these debts. Your family can then address those expenses as painlessly and simply as possible.
[ ] 5. Make a Membership List
If you’re a member of an organization that offers life insurance benefits at no additional cost to you or your loved ones, note those institutions among your documents. Your loved ones may have the right to collect additional benefits after passing.
[ ] 6. Gather Titles and Deeds of Properties
While creating an inventory of your belongings, ensure that you produce any related proprietorial documents and include them in your estate planning kit. These documents can include vehicle titles and deeds of property.
You may want to retitle any relevant properties if you have a trust in place, so that said property falls under the trust’s protection at the time of your death.
[ ] 7. Gather Proof of Identity Documents
You can also find the original copies of your social security card, birth certificate, marriage certificate, divorce certificate, and any discharge papers. Consider making copies of relevant documents and storing them in a fire-safe or bank box.
Again, make sure your executor knows how to access these documents or comes into possession of relevant copies.
[ ] 8. List Digital Logins and Passwords
In this increasingly digital age, your death may see you leave behind a litany of online accounts. With this in mind, list your social media accounts, financial accounts, email addresses, and passwords. You could also invest in terabyte storage blocks so you can make copies of any pictures or relevant documents you may have stored on your computer(s).
Manage and Review Finances
[ ] 9. Consolidate Your Finances
If possible, ensure you can transfer your finances to a single bank or create a paper trail that your loved ones can later follow to consolidate your finances. You want to make it easy for your executor to distribute your applicable finances upon your passing.
[ ] 10. Review Retirement Account Beneficiaries
The beneficiaries you name in your retirement account will receive the benefits before anyone noted in your will. Make sure you’ve named the appropriate beneficiaries and add those parties you want to be protected. You can also remove certain parties from your retirement account after you first establish that account.
[ ] 11. Review Insurance Beneficiaries
Similarly, double-check your insurance beneficiaries and take the time to add any parties you want to benefit from your chosen protections.
[ ] 12. Prepare for Estate Tax Obligations
While you may not have the opportunity to get ahead of your loved ones’ tax obligations, you can work with a personal executor to prepare your loved ones for your state’s specific estate and inheritance taxes. You can also note any federal laws that might impact your loved ones’ inheritances.
[ ] 13. Take Advantage of College Funding Accounts
If you want to create a college fund for any children or grandchildren, you can establish a 529 account during estate planning. Establishing a 529 account comes with tax advantages you can discuss with an accountant or an estate planning attorney, depending on your circumstances.
Decide on Your Plan
[ ] 14. Talk with an Estate Attorney
Between the emotional stress and the sheer number of documents you need to establish a postmortem action plan, you may find you need a hand planning your estate. You can work with an estate attorney to gather the necessary documents and establish the appropriate support nets for your family.
[ ] 15. Choose an Executor or Administrator of Your Estate
Most estate planning attorneys prompt you to elect a personal estate executor when you first draft your will. If you have not elected this individual at this point, you must do so.
Your executor should be someone you trust to be responsible with your loved one’s feelings and your estate. Choosing an executor who is financially stable and mentally fit is also advisable.
[ ] 16. Assign Transfer on Death Designation
When you take the time to assign a transfer of your accounts upon the designation of your death — provided you can do so — you can prevent your loved ones from waiting through a lengthy probate process to take control of your assets.
You can work with an aide to connect with the relevant institutions and ensure your accounts are handled correctly. You have the right to ease the transference of your IRAs, retirement funds, 401ks, and insurance policies in addition to your bank accounts.
[ ] 17. Select Guardians for Children and Pets
Most people don’t forget to declare a guardian for their children in the event of their death. If there’s a specific party you want to watch over your loved ones — including your pets — you need to declare as such in your will.
You can connect with an estate planning attorney if you need to modify an existing will to account for a new family member or pet under your guardianship.
Complete Important Documents
[ ] 18. Last Will and Testament
Your last will and testament identifies your executor, giving them your instructions regarding how you want your property to be distributed. This document must be witnessed and notarized, ensuring you were of sound mind when you distributed control over your estate.
[ ] 19. Living Trust
You can use a living trust to distribute a portion of your estate to a specific designee. Living trusts come with explicit instructions about how portions of your estate should be distributed upon your passing.
You can choose to create either a revocable or irrevocable trust.
You retain control over a revocable trust until your death.
An irrevocable trust technically owns itself and thus places less of a taxable burden upon its recipient.
[ ] 20. Living Will
A living will specifies your desired actions in the event that you can no longer make medical decisions for yourself. You can also use a living will to issue “do not resuscitate” orders.
[ ] 21. Power of Attorney
The power of attorney title determines who wields control over your estate and affairs if you can no longer do so due to your death or a severe injury.
[ ] 22. Statement of Wishes
You can include a statement of wishes along with your will, but it’s not an essential document. Instead, it’s a statement of wishes outlining what you would like your loved ones to do upon your passing regarding your funeral arrangements and additional postmortem care. You can also use a statement of wishes to elaborate on decisions made in your will.
Updating and Managing Your Estate
[ ] 23. Store Documents in a Safe and Accessible Place
You must store your postmortem documents in a location safe from environmental harm and foul play. It’s best to store multiple copies of essential documents in a fire-safe or bank box.
[ ] 24. Make Copies of Your Documents
Having multiple copies of your postmortem documents is always a good idea. You can create physical copies of your estate plans to divide among the relevant parties. You can also make digital copies of these documents to store in the Cloud or on a personal storage drive.
If necessary, you can request that your executor distribute access to these documents to the relevant parties upon your death.
[ ] 25. Reassess Your Plan
There is always a chance your plans for the future may change after you’ve assembled your estate planning documents. With that in mind, make sure you revisit your documents after significant life changes, such as marriage, divorce, and the birth of a child.
You can also revisit your plan if the person you named as your executor or a beneficiary passes away. An estate planning attorney can help you rework your plan upon your request.
Visit this website for the Law Offices of Travis R. Walker based in Florida.
The Elephant in the Room: How to Prepare Your Family for “The End”
Expanded from the October 3, 2019 article in PMEA Retired Member Network eNEWS.
Few people want to talk about it… what co-authors Shoshana Berger and BJ Miller discuss in their book, A Beginner’s Guide to the End: Practical Advice for Living Life and Facing Death:
Passwords for phone, computer, email, and social media accounts
Instructions for your funeral and final disposition
An ethical will*
Letters to loved ones
* Where a legal will transfers assets, an ethical will transfers immaterial things: your life lessons and values. For a discussion on the latter, seek out the book Ethical Wills: Putting Your Values on Paper by Dr. Barry Baines.
Berger and Miller also recommended to purchase and set-up an online password manager to safeguard your data and share the master password with someone you trust. (For more info on password management software, read my “tech rant” blog here.)
With greater detail, we also learn from https://www.wealthmanagement.com/news/final-letter-instructions-family-important the importance of leaving a “final letter of instructions” to your loved ones. The website reports what Neuberger Berman Trust Company advises should be archived in a document to be read after your death.
The location of all estate planning documents, such as wills and trust agreements
A list of relevant advisors with contact information
List of other people to contact on your death
Location of any safe deposit boxes, inventory list, location of keys, who is authorized to open
List of life insurance policies, location and beneficiaries
List of bank accounts and how they are titled
Investment and trust account information
A description of other assets
Any debts or other liabilities
Listing of all credit card accounts
Inventory of other important documents like deeds and titles, and where they are held
Location of keys to all residences
Description of any pension benefits and who to contact
Instructions concerning funeral or memorial services
They add that this document should be held by your attorney, spouse, and adult children.
What would you say to those nearest and dearest to you if you couldn’t (or didn’t) tell them in person? Consider writing individual letters to your partner, children, or other family members “as a way of leaving a few last words.” Check out Frish Brandt’s inspiring website, “Last[ing] Letters.”
A Lasting Letter is a letter written to someone you care about, someone who you wish to hear your voice and read your words long into the future. Sometimes referred to as a ‘legacy letter,’ this letter holds the words that carry one’s voice forward in time.
The letter can take many forms: long or short, a memento of a moment or a history of a lifetime, a connection made or missed, an instruction or a confession, a love letter, and everything in between.
Each letter is unique: each voice, each intention is individual.
It is always a privilege to receive email or comments from many of you regarding my past blog-posts at this site. I truly appreciate hearing from you – agree or disagree – and, whenever possible, I will “pass along” your recommendations and perspectives.
The “mission” is to help you with the transition to retirement and, when they are relevant, to communicate links to helpful sources of information. Many of these are not applicable to every retiring music teacher. However, if not issues for a family member, you might know of a friend, neighbor, colleague, or someone else who could use some direction in these eclectic topics:
Housing purchases/rentals, maintenance, and improvements
Elmer George invited all of us to peruse his new website: elderville.org. It is called Resources for All Elders, and it shares lists of websites, blogs, and fact sheets on numerous senior-related themes – everything from “daily safety tips” to “volunteering.”
Several great examples, his set of February 2018 articles (https://elderville.org/blog/) discuss “Five Ways Seniors Can Avoid Stress and Hassle During This Tax Season” and “Three Ways Seniors Can Get Healthy at Church.”
Specific to housing concerns, Elmer emailed me these additional avenues of help:
Elizabeth Reynolds reached out to me with research on criteria for choosing the best medical alert system: https://www.reviews.com/medical-alert-systems/. She said, “After hearing that there are 800,000 fall-related hospitalizations each year, our team created this resource in an effort to change that number.” Elizabeth added, “Our hope is that our guide may assist readers navigating their options to minimize this risk in the event of a fall.” At first, I thought her posting was a well-concealed advertisement for a particular company, until I explored her entire www.reviews.com website. Knowledge is power. Elizabeth has assembled a wide variety of resources in these areas worth further reading:
Home Services
Insurance
Financial Services
Home Products
Health and Fitness
Beauty
Pets
Speaking of reviews, something on which you would not probably seek advice is what mattress to purchase or finding other aids for improving your sleep. Well, if you know anyone who has had trouble getting to sleep or is seeking methods of being well-rested, let me be the first to recommend https://www.bestmattressreviews.com/, shared by Jenny Thompson. She claims her “team” has been researching the science behind sleep and reviewing sleep products to see if they really have the effects that the companies claim to have. I admit, her extensive online resource first sounded a lot like a very large commercial, but I have never known such detail and vast criteria could be involved in assessing the merits of different mattresses and sleep accessories:
Types: foam, innerspring, latex, and hybrid
Sleep position: side sleepers, back sleepers, stomach sleepers, couples
Other benchmarks: firm, soft, cooling, crib, organic, pain management, and user type (mattresses for pet owners, runners, people with disabilities, etc.)
It is definitely worth your time to examine the article section on specific sleeping guides:
Sleep disorders
New and expecting mothers
Advice for children, teenagers, and college students
Mental health and sleep
Sleep and anxiety
P.T.S.D. and other problems
We may all know someone who has suffered the effects of Alzheimer’s. This one recently hit home to me as I just discovered one of my long-time music teacher friends was enrolled in a memory unit.
According to this website, “Alzheimer’s disease affects as many as 5 million Americans. Scientists still don’t know how to prevent, slow, or cure the disease. Meanwhile, the death rate has increased 55% over the past decade and a half, and with the silver tsunami on the horizon, the number of patients is expected to explode. Sleep problems and Alzheimer’s are interconnected. People living with Alzheimer’s experience difficulty sleeping, while people who have sleep issues earlier in life are at greater risk for developing the disease.” We should all be aware of this link for more information: https://www.bestmattressreviews.com/alzheimers-and-sleep/.
Finally, out of the blue, Jennifer Scott contacted me with “healthy ways to cope with a loss” with these resources to help grieving families:
Reaching out to those who may be suffering with anxiety and depression, her helpful hints will go far to alleviate stress. I found parts of her website, http://spiritfinder.org/, are also very illuminating. Thank you, Jennifer!
Bookmark the URL of this blog-post for future use. You never know when you might need some guidance on these miscellaneous subjects. Revisit past writings at https://paulkfoxusc.wordpress.com/for-retirees/. Also, please stay “connected,” communicate your “views and news” in blog comments (click at the top of the page), submit your responses to the NAfME discussion platform Amplify (we have a special “retired member” community forum, or just send an email to paulkfox.usc@gmail.com. As Tom Bodett said in commercials for a well-known motel chain: “We’ll leave the light on for you.”
Photo credits (in order) from Pixabay.com: “countryside” by sasint, “hospice” by unclelkt, “grandparents” by sylviebliss, “granny” by brenkee, “bed” by pexels, “dementia” by geralt, and “beach” by qimono.